"God Gives Us Memories so We Might Have Roses in December"

When I think of December, my mind automatically thinks of Christmas celebrations, fun-filled snowy days, decking the halls, family gatherings in front of the fireplace, gifts galore, and lots of laughter. The joyous songs of the seasons, adorable children in memorable Christmas pageants, and choirs lifting their voices in Christmas cantatas.

However, is it so in every household this December? I think not! In this season of peace and joy, let us not forget the families who would like to cut this month from the calendar. Families who have been torn apart through divorce, illness, or the passing of a loved one. There is an empty seat around these tables this holiday season, a missing voice, that special touch which creates a heart shaped hole of longing.

My own family and several dear friends have suffered the great loss of close family members this year. Some deaths arrived without warning taking us off-guard and by surprise. Oh yes, we are thankful that they didn’t suffer but how we miss them. Other loved ones passed their final days surrounded by loved ones. Some were taken tragically and at a young age. But grief knows no age. Plans are interrupted and dreams unfulfilled. Even now, there are those, close friends and family members, that we know may not be here for our next holiday season. The shadow of grief looms in background of even this year’s gatherings allowing us to make the most of each moment we have with them.

My prayer for us, and my prayer for you and your loved ones, this holiday season is that we gather and savor our memories, some may yet be too painful or bittersweet, but it is through these precious memories that we gather bouquets of roses even in December. We have a hope for a future reunion but this day we selfishly wish for one more moment with our loved ones. Let us not forget those left behind who are in need of our love, support, kindness and understanding this season.

And if you are one of those left behind, know there are those around who remember and who are waiting for the one word from you to remember as well. There is healing in remembrance and tears. You are not alone.

If this holiday season you would like to share your memories with others, I am opening a space on my blog for those special memories. Please feel free to come and share with us.

Now the Lord of peace himself give you peace always by all means. The Lord be with you all. I Thessalonians 3:16